FAMILY & INDIVIDUAL COACHING

If you have a difficult relationship with a close family member, you might have inadvertently activated your loved one's intense...

Arguably one of the most important life skills in DBT! Emotional regulation includes a whole set of skills and which we choose depends...

Does the emotion fit the facts? Emotions can trigger thoughts and interpretations about events and they can distort our perception, which...

If we can change the emotion by solving the problem, then first solve the problem! Problem solving is an emotional regulation strategy...

Opposite action is more than a skill. It is a philosophy of life. Like dialectics or radical acceptance or mindfulness, this is a DBT...

Now we have three strategies for regulating emotions: Checking the Facts, Opposite Action, and Problem Solving, (not to mention...

What is mentalizing? Good mentalizing is inquiring deeply into understanding the mental experiences of self or other. It is trying to...

(But let's not give up the goal of getting your loved one into treatment!) Reviews of psychotherapy treatment outcome studies show that:...

FAMILIES! If you have a loved one who needs to be right, who is intolerant of different perspectives, who is often rigid and wants to...

MYTH: You CAN’T talk about it. Talking about suicide or asking someone if they feel suicidal will encourage suicide attempts. FACT:...

"Cheat sheets" to help identify what you are feeling! Notice the words of different intensities. Use these words! Validate yourself and...

When Marsha Linehan, PhD, developed Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) in the 1980s, she originally intended it to be used for treating...

Inquisitive and not-knowing Presence A fundamental presence that includes empathy, genuineness, a nonjudgmental attitude, positive regard...

Dogs are the second best mentalizers, right after humans! 😉 Mentalizing occurs when we are trying to make sense of behaviors. It...

Mentalization-Based Treatment (MBT) was developed as a treatment for Borderline Personality Disorder by Bateman and Fonagy in the U.K....

The importance of rest and sleep cannot be underestimated. Lack of alertness, impaired memory, increased vulnerability to emotional...

Polemic: (definition) A forceful written or spoken argument against something, especially an opinion or belief. The act of participating...

No matter how rough things are for you right now…Especially if it seems like there’s no end to your difficulties…You deserve relief. When...

This is an essential DBT Skill! There are a lot of ways to deal with negative, critical, or worrisome thoughts, but what we cannot do is...

If we can change the emotion by solving the problem, then first solve the problem! Problem solving is an emotional regulation strategy...